Living Your Values at Work


I had the opportunity to interview Stan Slap, CEO and Author of the New York Times best selling book:
Bury My Heart in Conference Room B.

Download the podcast of the interview here:

What we talked about:

Stan Slap: Buckle up, we’re going off road.

Stan asks:

Did you ever imagine that when you were 15, or 18, or 22 and swore that you were going to live your life your way, to the fullest, that you would ever be in a discussion where someone was encouraging you to do that and you were hesitant, fearful and unsure about whether you should?

The Power of Emotional Commitment

Stan challenges all of us to lead from our own deepest values.

Stan talked about allowing yourself to live those values at work. You only get one life, and the clock is ticking. So why wouldn’t you?

Personal Values drive Corporate Performance

There is nothing like emotional commitment in managers and employees to fuel corporate performance. You’ve seen it. You’ve felt it. When someone is emotionally committed to a cause nothing can get in their way.

So why is it so hard for companies to get emotional commitment?

Emotional commitment is what companies want most from their managers but the very concept of being a manager often means having to serve your company over your own values.

So what companies want most from their managers (emotional commitment and increased performance), they most stop their managers from giving. Stan explains that it’s not “the company”, that is the reason for this. It is the managers themselves.

Why do managers stand in the way of their own emotional fulfillment?

Because it’s uncomfortable initially to expose who you really are and what you really care about at work, or you may not think your company deserves your emotional commitment.

But Stan challenged us to consider that the cost of emotional detachment (lack of fulfillment and poor performance) is even bigger.

He shared some fascinating insights from his research with tens of thousands of managers:

When asked, What are your core values? the two things that came up more often than anything else, were family and integrity. When asked, What core values do you find work most compromises? the top two answers were family and integrity.  Yikes!

Stan gave us the roadmap

1. Understand your core values
2. Share them with your team
3. Show your team why bringing them into work makes life better for them
3. Encourage them to bring their core values to work
4. The emotional commitment will greatly increase your team’s performance
5. Your company responds well to increased performance.

This is fuels corporate performance.

Leading from your own deepest core values, it is going to increase your performance, and the performance of the company.

Don’t wait for permission

Don’t wait for permission or sanction for this to come from above.

Many people are angry and frustrated and resentful about how badly their companies are treating them.  So why would you want to give your emotional commitment to your company?

You don’t do this for company. You do this for yourself.

Do this for YOU

Make a commitment to yourself to be more fulfilled by leading from your values. Do it for yourself and your team. Good things will happen.

We talked about how this approach engenders remarkable levels of emotional commitment support from your team. I can personally vouch for this. It works.


Stan told a fascinating story about a woman who drew  her core value of loyalty from a horrific experience in her past going to a segregated school in the South.  There are many remarkable stories in his book about how people discover their core values.

What are your core values?

What are your moments of truth?  Who are you really?  What do you care about at the deepest level? How would it feel if that person was welcome at work?

Download the podcast to learn  more.

Buy Stan’s book on Amazon (not a paid affiliate link, just a convenience) or anywhere books are sold (including Brazil, and China!)


Thanks Stan, it was great!

Stan Slap has revolutionized performance for many of the world’s most successful companies. His international consulting company, slap, specializes in achieving ferocious commitment from manager, employee and customer cultures––the three groups that decide the success of any business. His client list ranges from Hewlett-Packard and Microsoft to HSBC and Viacom.

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